The first thing we need to do before solving a problem is to truly understand what the problem is.

For example, we might find ourselves struggling to maintain a healthy relationship with a family member, spouse, or coworker. We've learned that our problems originate outside of us, in other people or external circumstances. We look to solve our problems outside of us. However, we can't solve our problems unless we find their true origin and nature. If, at the subatomic level, we are...