Understanding Betrayal through the Crystalline Lens

Betrayal is a subject that many of us fear and associate with the ending of a friendship, a marriage, or affiliation with a group. It is the crumbling of a dream, of an illusion, and it is associated with suffering. According to most, betrayal is one of the worst, most negative experiences you could ever live. In the face of betrayal, you will judge the other, victimize yourself, and support and gravitate toward all the negative thoughts generated by you and others about what the terrible experience of betrayal is and what it means.

Psychologist Stanley Rachman, author of “Betrayal: A Psychological Analysis” (Behaviour Research Therapy, April 2010), points to the dynamic between the betrayed and the betrayer—you and the other—that is an entrenched part of the accepted beliefs about betrayal. He writes, “Betrayal is the sense of being harmed by the intentional actions or omissions of a trusted person. The most common forms of betrayal are harmful disclosures of confidential information, disloyalty, infidelity, dishonesty.”

Betrayals can be traumatic and cause distress. They can lead to mental contamination. Normally, after you’ve been betrayed, you will spend a lot of time reliving the experience and feeding on the pain and anger it generates, regretting having fallen into the trap or unpleasant situation from which it is hard to escape. Time will go by, and you will still be a prisoner of your emotions and thoughts and the belief that the other person is entirely to blame.

But what if I told you that betrayal is not what you think or what others have told you? What if I told you that, even if the circumstance seems to be outside, everything that you are living was unconsciously conceived within you without your awareness and that betrayal has knocked at your door today to show you something that was hidden from your eyes? That it is here now to uncover and show you the truth? By truth, I don’t mean the truth of whatever circumstance you experienced outside but, rather, the truth about you—the crystal blueprint.

The saying goes that, when you are betrayed, you betray yourself. There is some truth here. All of our experiences, without exception, originate in our internal contents. You can blame your friend, your partner, your spouse, your mother, your stepmother, your guru, or whoever you want to blame. But only one person is responsible for your life; that person is not any of the others, but you. The fuel that creates your reality is a product of the inner contents you have absorbed unconsciously, without your full awareness, from others. These contents, literally, are creating, second by second, your actual reality.

The reason that today your reality has taken the form of betrayal is to tell you about the betrayal pattern within you. Maybe it originated in a deeper wound. Maybe you felt betrayed by your mother when she abandoned you when you were born. Maybe either your father or mother betrayed the other. Or perhaps you felt betrayed when your parents divorced or were rarely at home to support you. Perhaps the culture or religion you identify with or were raised in support betrayal.

Whatever the motive, deep down, the message is very clear: You are betraying yourself. We betray ourselves when we hear and follow other voices instead of that which is authentically ours.

I shared all this because I myself have been there. I have been betrayed many times. I have been betrayed by my romantic partners, by my loved ones, by my friends, by people close to me, and by my own culture. And every time I sank, I uncovered another piece of the puzzle to become my real and authentic self.

This is the time to ask yourself the question betrayal is calling for: Which part of you are you not listening to? What is your true path and reality, beyond what others have made you believe? In other words, who are you beyond who you think you are?  Beyond your family, your culture, your religion, your nationality? Who are you???

Crystals, through their properties known by science, can amplify your true voice and transcend all that you are not. They can help you to restore your loyalty to yourself, instead of blindly following or repeating others’ voices.

If betrayal is knocking today at your door, it is doing so to let you know that it’s time for you to follow your authentic voice. Betrayal produces life-altering changes that can lead you to uncovering the real you—your real nature or crystal blueprint. From this perspective, betrayal can be a real blessing in disguise.

You can reconnect with your true and authentic path to shine like never before, like the transparent crystal that you are and whose energy keeps pulsating within you so you can live fully in yourself.

What are you waiting for? You can choose to be faithful to yourself and endure in an authentic relationship with yourself that will reflect in the world around you. Work with crystals today!

Crystal LOVE!

Beatriz