The Crystalline Partnership

Feb 12, 2019

“Listen, I think we need to be more loving and affectionate with one another. We would really benefit from creating that environment together, because we both really deserve this and need it to be happy together.”

 

David Wygant, Naked! How to Find the Perfect Partner by Revealing Your True Self

 

When was the last time you talked like this with your partner or potential partner?

 

According to the calendar, this second week of February is the week of love, the week of Cupid’s arrow hitting its perfect mark. Awww, relationships—pure bliss, right?

 

For some, love and romantic relationships are a big challenge. Those in partnerships may feel as if they are hitting the same old wall over and over. They try everything they can think of to have the relationship they’ve always dreamed of, but they don’t see those efforts reflected in their relationships.

 

If this applies to you, you may feel as if, no matter what you do or how hard you try, things just don’t seem to improve or get better. One situation leads to another, and when you least expect it, you are reliving the same old uncomfortable situation and rethinking whether this relationship is going to last or whether it’s better to end it and move on.

 

Others of you may be single and looking for a partnership. You search and search, put yourself out there, and give new possibilities a chance. And you get the same results over and over—the wrong relationships with the wrong people.

 

In either case, you may be experiencing a feeling of impotence. You constantly work, but despite all the effort and awareness, you are nowhere near the romantic relationship you’ve long desired and deserved—a crystalline partnership.

 

For many of you who have done a lot of work on yourselves, you are still attracting the wrong people.

 

Why is this happening? Is there any way to stop this vicious cycle?

 

We have learned to see our tangible and external reality as the source of all our problems. When we have a problem in our relationships, we tend to blame others for our problems. In this way, we blame our partners, the people we know and with whom we would like to have a lasting relationship. But that doesn’t work in this way.

 

What if the other person is reflecting the work you need to do within yourself? What if what you don’t like about the other person is reflecting back to you a part of your own story that you learned unconsciously from your environment and are repeating through others without your full awareness? What if the other person is the door through which you have to pass to realize all this and start consciously working on yourself?

 

When a situation repeats itself in our life, no matter what we do in order for it not to happen again, it’s bringing to our attention an inner program that requires our conscious work to change this recurrent situation and expand our lives.

 

We attract into our lives everything we have within our minds—this includes our partnerships.

 

We are resonating with our inner stories or, better said, the stories we’ve absorbed from others without our full consent and awareness. These are the stories of our parents or the people who surrounded us from the moment we were in our mother’s womb. They’re the stories of our society, culture, or religion; those of our gender; and many others.

 

I invite you to explore your story now.

 

If you are looking for a partner, what values are you looking for in your partner? How are these values similar to those of your parents or the people you grew up with? To those of your friends? To those of your culture, society, religion, gender, or ethnicity? Ask yourself if you are really authentic when you’re choosing your partner. Or are you making choices based on a preconceived model that you learned from others unconsciously, without questioning if that model is true for or resonates with you?

 

Some people choose partners because of their looks or their economic status. Others choose partners for their religion, for their ethnic or cultural background, or for their nationality. Take a moment to become aware of who is really choosing your partner. Is it you? Is it your parents? Is it your culture, your religion, your gender, your ethnic or cultural background, your nationality?

 

The dynamics we experience in our relationships sometimes take on nuances we never imagined. We find ourselves talking with loved ones or potential partners in ways that are unproductive and can feel unintentional and out of our control.

 

In partnerships, the person we fell in love with and who we longed to spend the rest of our lives with may be far from our “ideal relationship model.” This may be because we had a preconceived notion—an idea of the perfect partner, which we were in love with—that we learned from others and that doesn’t correspond with our own authentic reality.

 

If you are in a partnership, become aware of which story you are repeating unconsciously from your parents or people close to you while you were growing up. What story(ies) are you repeating from your culture, society, religion, or other identity group? What story(ies) do you need to heal yourself from in order to come to your partnership or search for a partner as your transparent, authentic self?

 

In my experience as a crystal healer working one-on-one with clients for twenty years and in my own process of healing from my own story, I have come to realize the value of quartz crystals in this type of healing. Because of their properties, which are scientifically acknowledged, quartz crystals are excellent tools to enable us not only to become aware of the inner stories we are repeating from others but also to transform these stories into authentic ones and change our resonance.

 

So what does that change look like? What does a crystalline partnership look like?

 

We can, in deed, reshape our relationships when we each commit to our inner work. If you are in a relationship, I encourage each member to work on him or herself. This will enable you each to continue to uncover your crystalline self and vibrate with your inner resonance. And it will help your partnership to be a crystalline relationship in which both partners evolve together.

 

At a subatomic level, we are all interconnecting fields of constantly flowing energy. Its part of our own nature to keep evolving and expanding—this includes growing together in partnership.

 

It’s important to understand that, whatever the reasons that attracted you and your partner to each other, it’s no accident that you’re together now. Your internal vibrations, your resonance, brought you to each other so that you could work individually and together. Acting responsibly within the relationship means assuming the challenge of healing through each other, respecting each other’s processes, and persevering in this work without avoiding it or leaving it halfway finished. It means each person assuming responsibility without blaming the other. It means first completing the work individually and then working as a couple in order to live in balance and grow together.

 

The inner mental programs that we have integrated from others prevent us from connecting with our true essence, the constant flow of energy we experience when we feel love.

 

Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl captures this quality of love in Man’s Search for Meaning:

 

“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.”

 

As a partner, the primary challenge is to work with the “separation beliefs” created by the information we have integrated from others. We are interconnected fields of energy; we have to start acting as an integrated whole. But to do this, each of the parts must be a whole in itself. Each partner must feel complete and assume the responsibility of continually working individually and as partners. Two incomplete parts produce a pair with more gaps and points of disunity, while two solid parts merge.

Let’s look at four specific ways we can work on resonating with our own crystalline selves and reformulating our relationships with our partners in order to become crystalline:

 

  1. Assume your responsibility.

 

Living in the past and blaming others for your problems can negatively impact your ability to find and have a fulfilling, long-term relationship.

 

Through resonance, you are continually attracting those who match your inner vibration. Based on what you are attracting into your life, you must constantly observe yourself and become aware of the stories you are repeating from others.

 

When you blame others, you become a victim; you aren’t taking responsibility. Your energy stops flowing, and this can lead you to an endless cycle of suffering.

 

When you take responsibility and become aware of those parts of your story you are repeating, you can heal them and make conscious choices to transform your inner resonance. You can choose to create more loving relationships, where you won’t experience the same frustrating results over and over again.

 

Each of us is responsible for ourselves and not for others. Only you can work on your own inner “program” in order to recognize what patterns you have inherited from others—those patterns that destroyed every relationship you had in the past and, if left to repeat, will foil future relationships.

 

If you’re not happy with your relationships, turn your focus inward. Ask yourself, what inner programs are perpetuating this experience in my relationships? What are their true origins? When you have answered these questions, consciously work on yourself using crystals as tools.

 

When finding or maintaining a partnership, focus on working on your crystalline self and your ability to show up for a crystalline relationship.

 

  1. Live in the present.

 

Try to grasp the past. It’s impossible! The past only lives within your mind. It isn’t real. When you resonate with the past, you keep attracting old situations into your life—repeating patterns and living out scenarios that you no longer want to live.

 

The only thing that is real is the present.

 

To live in the present, when it comes to a crystalline relationship, means to let go of past learned beliefs that live within you that don’t serve you anymore. It also means reconnecting with the most authentic version of you. This is when the partner you’ve long dreamed about will come into your life.

 

  1. Break free of your learned mind-set.

 

We have learned to identify with matter—the paradigm that holds that we are all solid masses, rather than collections of mostly nonsolid atoms within fields of energy (as quantum physics has shown us and as some ancient beliefs held). When we identify with this the program/paradigm, everything seems separate. This program lives in our mind, sowing separation instead of fostering interconnection. That is behind why most of us live in the compartments of our minds where me and you are separated, rather than in our energy essence—where we are all interconnected.

 

Each of us deserves to live our best version of ourselves individually, in partnership, and collectively.

 

It’s important to live in your crystalline self but also to let your partner live in his or her crystalline essence without imposing your beliefs. In this way, you will create expanding relationships instead of constricting ones.

 

Being in a relationship is not about controlling the other’s will. It’s about accepting and respecting your partner for who he or she really is without judgment or conditioning and getting the same acceptance and respect in return, as long as there is mutual agreement in this process.

 

In order to let go, trust your partner, and truly move forward, you need to love this person as he or she is. When you do so, you’re also loving and accepting yourself for who you really are.

 

To do so really means transcending a limiting, learned mindset and taking a big step toward your process of healing, transforming, and expanding yourself individually and in partnership.

 

  1. Change the language from me to us.

 

It’s important to free ourselves from our learned model of separation based on one point of view. A couple consists of two interconnecting fields of energy. Communicating from a more expansive, inclusive way and avoiding exclusive communication is healthier for any relationship.

 

Happiness in a relationship doesn’t depend on the other but on each one of us. Conflicts generally stem from viewing life from a limited perspective. Working with crystals in your partnership can help you recognize your authentic self; accept the authentic self of the other; and, from that place, nurture yourself so you can grow and expand individually and in partnership.

 

In a crystalline relationship, each partner is responsible for his or her own happiness and for the two partners’ happiness together.

 

Remember that, in the end, your partnership reflects to you what you have to become aware of and work on in yourself.

 

Something you can do, for example, is to write a list of all that you don’t like or want to improve in the other and replace his or her name with your own. You can do this using either a current partner or previous partners. Only then will you take responsibility for your actions, examine yourself, and become aware of your patterns. Personal growth is a lifelong process. We’re all on a journey of self-growth. Some lessons are more difficult to learn than others. Likewise, some attitudes and behaviors have become habits that we are not aware of and, thus, are more difficult to overcome than others.

 

Love is grand and wonderful when the mind doesn’t get involved in this equation. In order to always be present, it’s important first to continue to empty your inner drawers from information that has come from others and work toward becoming your crystalline self—who you really are. You can have a crystalline relationship. But first you have to resonate with your own transparency. 

Crystal LOVE! 

Beatriz

 

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