Leading from Wholeness

In addition to the pandemic and all the uncertainty we’ve had to live in regard to our health and economy, now we also have to deal with lack of leadership! I don’t know if the same thing happens to you, but the fights between members of the Senate, the continuous judgment and polarization of the leaders of the political parties, the aggressiveness and violence throughout our streets, and social media networks for social injustice make me question our current models of leaderships. In the world of energy, every word, every behavior, and every experience generates resonance and the possibility of attracting the reality that matches those words, behaviors, and experiences. Our different leaders are sending out separation, aggressiveness, hate, negativity, and so on—and we are resonating with these concepts. Is this really what we want to resonate with and attract for our already troubled world? Or is it peace, tolerance, solidarity, and connection that we want to be calling in?!

Do you think, as I do, that an urgent need for new leadership—for leaders who resonate with what we want to build—is more than obvious? Otherwise, we will continue to attract more of the same. The call for a different type of leadership is about finding new solutions, not recreating the same old stories and creating more problems than we have.

The solutions might not lie in the extremes, such as capitalism or socialism or feminism or masculinism, but at the center. And they’re not outside but inside each of us. Life has given us a pause in time in the form of a pandemic, and it’s no coincidence that it’s come in a time of great divisiveness. Ancients called these pauses “the time of no time” and compared them to the space between thoughts, where we could go beyond our limited thinking and connect with the infinite part of us. Maybe the pandemic has come so we can reevaluate ourselves and create a better individual and collective resonance, to attract a much better reality than the one we had lived and are experiencing right now.  And if so, leadership plays an important role.

When we live a divided life, the stakes are very high; they have to do with our individual and collective well-being. If leaders guide people and want to bring peace and connection, first it’s important for them to be aligned with wholeness. Unfortunately, in our society, the message we get as very young children is clear: It’s not safe to be who I really am.

Our infancy is what most resembles living in undivided wholeness (of course, with some variations). A young child is spontaneous—whatever is in the inside comes to the outside. Young children don’t think, Should I let this out or not? They don’t think about who they are. They just are—they flow with who they themselves authentically are.

But at a very young age, we begin to build walls around our real identity because we have learned through our environment that being fully who we are and sharing ourselves openly with the world is not safe. We begin to cover our sexual identity or our true feelings about the religion we grew up with, our career aspiration when they differ from what others have in mind for us or our aspirations as women in patriarchal societies, or the things that thrill us and are often criticized. We hold back on expressing our feelings or whatever we’re taught society doesn’t accept. Individually, separation is born from the division between our inner and outer world or who we really are and what society and the tribes we belong to accept. In our acculturation process, we sorted our authentic characteristics into those that are acceptable to our society from those that we have to put away. We are all born whole, but our tribes and subtribes, in various ways, demand that we live out only from the parts they have learned to identify with instead of living from our original undivided nature. This is how each of us individually begins to live and resonate with separation. But, if we resonate with separation on the inside, we also resonate with separation on the outside—not only in our life but also through our institutions, workplaces, politics, and so on.

In order to resonate with wholeness, you first need to recognize whether you are whole. I invite you to ask yourself this question: Is who I am on the inside the same as who I am on the outside?

This question can also be applied to others, including our leaders: Is what I see what I’m going to get? This is the unconscious question we all ask ourselves about our parents, our partners, our employees, our bosses, and our religious and political leaders. When I get what I see, all is well. But sadly, too often what we see—what we’re told we’ll get—doesn’t look at all like what really happens. And that is a problem. That’s why we lose trust in our leaders. And no matter what they promised, they will not deliver it, because they resonate with separation and have not done any shadow or inner work.

There are exceptions. President Lincoln fought depression from a young age and learned to reconcile his shadow and light inside him to hold together a nation. He did that by being a leader who didn’t divided the country into good and bad parts. He made clear that he was aware of the shadow and light in the country because he had to learn to deal with it inside himself. He was living in wholeness; his inner world reflected his outer world. 

But that’s not what we’re seeing in today’s leaders. If, for example, you live in the United States and you hear either of the two sides of the U.S.’s current two-party political system, you are going to hear the same story: “I’m going to save you, and the others are the bad ones who will destroy you.” From today’s leaders, this repeating separating discourse is what we hear over and over again.

When people divide and subdivide and perceive themselves as different parts—family, religion, culture, color of skin, gender, nationality, political party, and so on—it’s very difficult to live in wholeness. We are full human beings and not the “semi people” that society has taught us to be. We cannot keep conspiring against ourselves. We must unite from the inside out.

I truly believe that our reality is created from the inside out, through our inner resonance. Lincoln worked on his inner self and, through resonance, helped the country. Being whole is when we’re able to be one inside and outside. When we’re different on the outside from what we are on the inside, we are not part of the solution; rather, we’re part of the problem.

What you hate, you become; What you fight, you become because you make a vibrational connection. Even many of the anti-hate organizations and protests resonate with hatred and separation. If you say you’re a non-violent person, first you need to align your energy to resonate with nonviolence inside. For example, we each need to look inside to uncover all sorts of violent expressions in our daily lives, some expressed verbally and some not expressed at all.

A great leader is somebody who expresses her or his oneness in the world. She or he is someone who can reconcile both sides and become one. A great leader is a person who takes an inner journey to become undivided inside. It’s when we decide to live on the outside a truth we hold deeply on the inside that we become great leaders.

Instrumental acts that are aimed to achieve a particular ending almost always fail. What really helps change others are those acts that express personal, heartfelt truth.

New leadership must be supported by wholeness to inspire others to live in wholeness. The child is an example of human wholeness. But in adult life, we need to become more intentional about how to reclaim our authentic voice, expressed as heartedness and innocence or being free from any external contamination. We need to reframe our lives into the adult version of the openness of the child, and that implies transcending our mind and connecting from the heart.

You have the choice of who you want to be in each moment. You can choose to work on yourself before you lead. You can choose to strip away everything that’s false to get down to your true self. I guess the trick here is to be at a childhood state of wholeness with the skills of an adult. 

I am here to offer you my holistic tools—to guide you on your inner journey as you traverse the inner landscape in the form of inner resonances and travel to the outer landscape and the demands of change, to justice, solidarity, lasting well-being and peace.

You are a unique expression of infinite possibility. I dare you, instead of living on automatic pilot from the different parts you have learned to identify with, discover who you really are and live and express your wholeness in every aspect of your life and the world around you as a leader. 

The world needs you!

Beatriz