How Neutralizing our Father Program can Grow the World’s Love and Equality

Apr 16, 2021

We all have a father program residing in our mind cloud. That program affects how we engage with ourselves, our relationships, and the world around us. It deeply affects the degree to which we attract separation or togetherness.

How? Through resonance. Our father program comes to us through the resonance of our dad; whoever replaced him; or, for far too many of us, the lack of a father figure due to a father’s physical or emotional absence.

And it’s part of a collective father program that, like a father’s absence, limits everyone involved—kids, moms, and dads alike. This collective program is limiting, coding in us the belief that love and child care are primarily the role of mothers and that emotions and emotional labor are primarily in the realm of women.

Yet fathers deeply impact the experiences of daughters, sons, wives, and husbands. Father resonance plays an important part in our individual and collective resonance. And these limiting constructs often negatively impact the way fathers show up when they do, creating separation resonance and leaving father wounds in our individual and collective psyches.

For those of us who grew up with absent fathers, lack of love or perceived lack of love from a father or whoever replaced him becomes an invisible scar, resonating with and attracting all sorts of uncomfortable situations.

Those who identify as men and suffer from father wounds may copy their father’s traits—both good and bad. They may strive to become the men their fathers weren’t. They may adopt a macho complex or engage in misogynistic behavior.

Father wounds in those who identify as women can show up in many forms. A few include an endless search for love, perceiving all men through a negative filter, fear of abandonment, anxiety, or a pattern of relationships with father-wounded men (allowing them to relive the father dynamic codified in their mind).

Of course, as with all mind programs, the answer is neutralizing the information. But first let’s take a step back and look at the source of all this painful father resonance—this programming. If it’s true that we are all, at our core, limitless, whole, and resonant with connection and neutrality—and it is definitely true!—then something besides fathers themselves is behind these painful father programs.

That something is a lack of information in our collective mind clouds—a limited and limiting view of fatherhood and, moreover, a limited and limiting view of manhood. Where did you learn what it means to “be a man”? Can you remember back to a time before this script of manhood was uploaded for you?

Young boys cry, hold hands, hug each other, and express love and joy openly. Unfortunately, these behaviors are rare among older boys and grown men these days. As they get older, boys are told that men don’t cry or express emotions and are quickly limited by codes of masculinity. This socialization stamps in our collective mind cloud the idea that men are feelingless creatures, deprived of emotions and dominated by a selfish program—which promotes abuse, aggression, separation, hierarchy, and competition.

Patriarchy is a result of the disconnection from emotions and inability to connect with others.

So is toxic masculinity, which involves, beyond just “behaving like a man,” extreme pressure some men or masculine people feel to act in ways they don’t feel comfortable with. Toxic masculinity is based on three core “should”— men should be physically strong, unemotional, and aggressive; should reject any behavior associated with “being feminine”; and should be dominant and in control.

Imagine all the painful resonance this brings for those who identify as men, their partners, and their children. No wonder we individually and collectively suffer from painful father resonance.

Limited by fatherhood and manhood programs, even fathers who want to show up for their kids may find themselves hard-pressed to so do in the way they, their partners, and their children desperately want and need.

The good news is this isn’t just what it means to be a man or to be a father—not at all. Men do have deep emotions. In my 23-year holistic practice, I’ve witnessed the healing that comes when men are able to uncover and express their authentic feelings and to cry.

Fathers do want to be active parents. A 2014 Pew Research Center survey reported that 48 percent of fathers wished they could stay at home with the children. The idea of “maternal instincts” have been challenged by studies on gay dads, showing parenting ability has little to do with being a woman, just like professionalism has nothing to do with being a man. And research shows that fathers who are present and involved have a positive and lasting impact on their children’s health and well-being.

As we move away from our outdated understandings of masculinity and fatherhood, we all benefit. More moms will be able to realize untapped potential as providers when more dads realize their potential as caregivers. More children realize the positive impacts of loving, involved fathers. 

And fully transcending our programming and transforming our resonance requires internal work. When men choose to neutralize the limiting information about masculinity and fatherhood inside their mind clouds, they begin to resonate with their heart clouds. They begin to connect from a loving place with themselves and experience deep empathy for others—opening the door, to a whole new dimension in their lives they weren’t aware of, including a life they love living and fatherhood that fulfills them and their children.

Do you see the impacts of a limiting father program in your life? Are you ready for a new resonance? To provide for yourself the missing father love you crave? To neutralize your father program and adopt a new fuller understanding of what manhood and fatherhood mean? 

Through inner work, you can. Whether you’re a daughter, a son, a father, or a father to be, you can transform your father resonance. And through our interconnected mind clouds, we can live in a more loving, equal world and pass this resonance on to future generations. Join us now! The world needs you!

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